sorry if someone's asked this already but what is demisexual? I've heard of pan but not demi - would google but you answer these questions well :)

Here, read up!

Demisexuality is an identity located on the asexuality spectrum. People who identify as demisexual only experience sexual attraction to people they already have an emotional connection with.

You know the specific way our culture encourages women to have sex? Yeah, we’re basically being encouraged to be demisexual. (i.e. to only have sex with people who are “special” to us, who we’re “committed” to, etc.)