I have someone who I thought was a friend but really admited to being a pedophile, to abusing me, grooming me , used me for underage nudes, came to toronto to take my virginity at 16, So I dont know what to do. I feel like i want to ruin his life, put the screenies up on the internet and mail them to his bosses and family. His gf knows this and doesn't care.

If I were you, I would immediately cut off all forms of contact with this person and possibly pursue legal action (although I know that lots of survivors of sexual abuse/harassment avoid doing this because they don’t want to be re-victimized, made to prove what they cannot prove, etc. and obviously that’s fine).

I don’t think you necessarily have an obligation to do anything further than that, and I think that continuing to worry about this situation will just draw mental and emotional energy from you unnecessarily.

I’m really sorry that this happened to you, babe. That person is a shitty human being and I don’t want you to think for even one second that anything that happened was your fault or your responsibility in any way. xoxox