Esther (channeling Abraham) says that when you go through shitty relationships, or when you have a tough break-up, or whatever, you should look at it as “data collecting.”
Anytime you have a negative experience, you know what you don’t want more acutely than ever before, and so you know what you do want very acutely as well.
All those positive, wanted things end up in your vortex - the reality that is waiting for you to come get it by being in a consistently good mood - your “vibrational escrow.” So a shitty relationship just means there’s an even better relationship waiting for you in your vortex.
I’ve heard Esther express this idea dozens of times on different subjects, but I guess it never hit home until just now when she was discussing it in reference to relationships specifically.
I know that I had to go through a few mediocre relationships before getting to where I’m at now. Each one was an improvement on the last: #1 was emotionally evasive, so #2 was emotionally devoted; #2 held little appeal for me, so #3 was someone I really really wanted; #3 was uncommitted, so #4 is hugely committed.
Damian is the culmination of all my romance-related “rockets of desire” thus far. One of my exes was kind of dumb, so I asked for intelligence and I got it in Damian. One of my exes did drugs, so I asked for sobriety and I got it in Damian. One of my exes was timid and afraid, so I asked for bravery and initiative and I got it in Damian.
It’s interesting how this works - and it really, really does. I’m not encouraging anyone to purposely subject themselves to bad experiences in order to reap better ones, but if you’ve just gone through something really awful, take comfort in reminding yourself that all the solutions to those recently-arisen problems are waiting in your vortex and you just have to allow them to flow into your life.