Last week I was talking to someone I respect about how I often feel somewhat ostracized in queer communities/spaces nowadays, because I’m in a straight relationship and I am a femme cis woman, so I often get “read as” straight.
I felt bad even bringing it up, because the person I was talking to works with LGBT folks so she understands (as do I) that there are way way worse problems than people mistakenly assuming you’re straight.
But then she said to me, “No, you shouldn’t feel guilty, that’s totally valid. That’s biphobia and femmephobia.” And she’s right.
It’s great if you can grasp the concept that other people have it worse than you, and of course it’s never good to claim you have it worse when you don’t. But your struggles are still valid and it is totally okay to feel them and be aware of them and call people out when they’re shitty to you.