Ahahaha. Wow. There is a lot of ridiculous, misguided, misinformed sexism in this message. You really just crammed in as much bigotry and idiocy as you possibly could, didn’t you?
1. That guy is my boyfriend. We’ve been together for almost two years, and I have yet to encounter any problems with him of the magnitude you’re describing, because he’s a nice, respectful man. (Yes, they exist. There are plenty of them.)
2. When a man is your boyfriend, he doesn’t “act like he wants to be best buddies,” because that is clearly not the intention of anyone in any romantic relationship.
3. Penises are not nasty. You may feel differently if you are a lesbian or otherwise predisposed to have no sexual interest in penises, but to say that all penises are gross in all situations and contexts is blatantly incorrect. That’s an opinion you should keep to yourself because it’s body-negative and literally helps no one.
4. I have never been involved in a non-consensual sexual situation, with my current boyfriend or anyone else.
5. Like many women, I actually enjoy being penetrated by a penis from time to time. If this is difficult for you to grasp because of your sexual orientation, that’s okay, but please don’t try to force your opinions and feelings on others. Again, it’s body-negative, sex-negative, and doesn’t help anyone at all. I don’t need to “take it from you” because I have experienced it firsthand and don’t find it gross.
6. You should really consider seeing a therapist to help you work through your extreme aversion to men, since it’s obvious that it’s having a negative effect on your psyche and your interactions.